Perhaps you’re worried about early physical intimacy, heartbreak, or your tween’s reputation.Don’t overwhelm yourself or your child with fears, but take the top one or two and discuss them calmly and without criticism.
Or maybe it’s just extra texting and a change in her social-media status. This is also an opportunity for you to talk about your own expectations for what you believe is and is not appropriate in middle school.
There is no hard rule for when tweens should be allowed to date.
Whenever your child wants something, he or she is more open to listening to you. This is a good opportunity to share your values , perspectives, and hopes.
If you react reasonably, with a willingness to learn and be flexible, your child will trust your judgment and continue to seek it as the issues around dating become increasingly complex.
For many tweens, dating in middle school simply means texting or Snapchatting excessively.
Remember, middle schoolers often feel isolated and abnormal by nature. To be dating (whatever that means) can be the ultimate confidence booster. Do keep an eye out for serial relationships, though.While much is written about mean girls, it’s important for parents to realize how much fun this time can be socially for their daughters.“In sixth and seventh grades, girls get excited about becoming preteens and having their own world,” says Catherine Steiner-Adair.An interest in being more than friends is one of many signs your tween is entering adolescence.It’s helpful for parents to recognize that being more than friends doesn’t necessarily mean an interest in physical intimacy.This is not for the faint of heart, but you can do it.