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“There’s a sort of New Age chivalry about that.” Unfortunately, the rule seems even less clear for those in the LGBT community, says Morningside Heights resident and comedian Stephanie Foltz, who is bisexual.
Foltz, 29, says it can be tricky, but that gender norms are still at play.
“It opens up a kind of flirty dialogue of like, ‘You can pay for the next date,’ ” he says.
Manley is on the same page, but his reasoning is more economical: “Guys still [usually] make more money than women, so they should offer to pay, regardless of whoever asked out whom,” he says.
“I have a more masculine energy, so I usually pay on the first date,” she says.
One of the first times Foltz took the initiative and asked a guy out, it went really well. “It ended up being one of the most romantic experiences of my life.” She believes making the first move gave the man a helpful confidence boost.“I used to say, ‘Don’t let ideology get in the way of love,’ [but] I think when people meet other people, they want to know what their values and lifestyles are,” she says.And once people started broaching politics, she says, other taboos, such as keeping past relationships to yourself, began to get ditched too.“Now we’ve given ourselves permission to talk about these things, so it’s becoming a lot more common for people to [even] talk about their exes,” she says.Last-minute offers used to mean you were a second choice, and the advice was to save face and your self-respect by saying, “Nope.” But with the ability to find a potential match now sped up to the nth degree, that rule has been turned on its head.“[Texting] is a great way to flirt, maybe give them a taste of who you are,” says dating coach Chrisler.