Society tells us we should date around, not take things too seriously, and not worry about commitment. Purity in Harris sense means so much more than just abstaining from sex. That seems to be the hard part…trusting God’s perfect timing.
Harris offers many suggestions on how we can strive for purity and not feed into lust.
I know that God will provide me with “the one” when the time is right…(e.g.- when I am ready for marriage).
My blog pages elaborate on this and asks if “kissing dating goodbye” is appropriate for all ages.
Temporarily “kissing dating goodbye” which could also be called postponing dating might be appropriate especially for younger teenagers.
I have recently been dealing with a difficult breakup from my long-distance boyfriend. That is part of why dating is defective…it can take us away from the most important relationship in our life…the relationship with God.
Officially, we were together for just a few months, but he was a part of my life for over a year. I thought it was the most pure, godly relationship I could have had and I really thought marriage would come of it one day in the future. Now is a time to focus on a relationship…but not that kind of relationship. Harris explains that we should only worry about courting the opposite sex when we are ready for marriage.
My first experience with a Christian dating book was less than positive.
I was in college and at an Inter Varsity Christian Fellowship retreat where the theme of the weekend was relationships.
This time I wasn't even the one who'd read the book.
A guy I met at a church-sponsored swing dance had read it — and had "kissed dating goodbye." After that dance, "Dale" and I started hanging out together more and more — attending concerts, taking ballroom dancing classes, renting movies, and going to church together — sometimes in groups but often just the two of us.
I should have worked harder to fight off temptations and negative, defective environments.
My most recent relationship wasn’t as perfect as I was convinced it was.
Maybe some hand holding — but only after you're engaged. And we'd not only held hands before betrothal, we'd actually kissed. So what had started as a quest to honor God in our dating relationship, led only to an overwhelming sense of confusion and guilt (for things we weren't quite sure why we should feel guilty).