If your daughter is below the legal age of consent for your state, she should not be engaging in sexual activity with any man, however old he is.
Take a step back and try to see things from your daughter's perspective.
Encourage your daughter to confide in you about her life in general.
The worst thing I ever hear in these cases is a girl who says, “Don’t worry, he doesn’t act like he’s 21.” Somehow that’s supposed to equal things out — that a guy of 21 is so childlike that he fits in perfectly in the sophomore class.
Instead, what you want to see and hear is that your daughter is so sophisticated that — just as Samantha proposes — she actually fits in better with the college-age crowd.
If your daughter is 18 or older, she is an adult and entitled to make her own decisions about who she dates.
If your daughter only dates men who are significantly older than her, ask yourself why this may be the case.
Enlist the help of your husband or partner in enforcing these rules. Giles is a writer with an MA (Hons) in English literature and a post-graduate diploma in law.
Wes and Samantha: I’m having a hard time knowing how to handle my daughter’s relationship. Samantha: A younger girl dating an older guy comes with assumptions. Either way, this relationship could be good for her.
In this case, it is your responsibility as her mother to try to put a stop to the relationship. Establish rules and curfews and explain to your daughter that these are in her best interests.